Sometimes, we don’t even realize we are being caged in by something because we are so used to encountering it in our daily lives, or because we think and believe a certain way because of how we were raised, or in spite of it. A lot of times we start to feel that our way is the only way, and that everyone who doesn’t believe our way is wrong, and we get caged in by that. By not being able to think freely and respect others’ opinions. Sometimes we try to become a “martyr” for a cause, but in doing so, we lose respect for others and don’t really serve our true purpose. I’ve seen this in politics, marriage rights, religion, abortion rights, etcetera.
We are all individuals who are all entitled to our own opinions and to express them, that’s what makes the world go round and our country a free one. But, sometimes, when someone disagrees with us, we get so caught up in our beliefs, we seem to forget this.
I blame social media for a lot of this–people can post whatever they want at any time, with no regard to anyone else. But, when someone tries to counter them with a differing opinion, they get very defensive and downright rude. (Not saying everyone!)
Here, I will list some of the things that I notice most, and the reactions I have seen or experienced first hand–my point of all this will be to show that we can all disagree on things, and that’s okay, but we need to respect others’ opinions too!
POLITICS I am pretty much middle of the road, meaning I see both right and wrong on both sides. I will admit, I tend to lean a little left on some social issues, but I am no means full blown liberal, which is what I get called when I state something that is not far right! The problem I see across social media is a huge amount of hatred for the POTUS and FLOTUS. I didn’t vote for President Obama, I did a write in vote, and I certainly don’t agree with a lot of his policies or how he handles things, but I feel that since he was elected by our nation, he deserves respect for that as our leader, even if that’s the only reason. I feel like social media is a huge problem in allowing people to say racist comments, make meme’s, etc, under the protection of the First Amendment.
I feel like we are all entitled to our own opinions, and should be allowed to express them accordingly, but if we want people to listen to and respect ours, we owe them the same respect of doing that for them. This is apparently harder than it seems. Did you like it when people were bashing your candidate? Why would you want to do the same thing as someone you were finding so much wrong with? Besides, our elections happen every 4 years with a maximum of 8 years that a POTUS can be in office. If you don’t like it, get out and vote to change it! Social media isn’t the way to do it. The one thing I realize from the two sides pitting against each other is that we are growing farther apart as a country. Instead of working together to make this a great place to live, we are pushing further and further away. I am reminded of the quote
United we stand, divided we fall
I sure hope that we can put our differences aside and get back to where we need to be. We may not always like who is in office, but we can respect them and others who do! Especially if we want the same in return.
GAY MARRIAGE Another social topic I see people getting involved in is gay marriage. My biggest issue with this one is that if you are not gay, why are you so bothered by it? I feel we all love who we love, and that God loves us all. He doesn’t discriminate! He loves us all!
Due to the influx in social media, etc, this has been a hot topic. I see a lot of hatred and people quoting all sorts of sources saying all gays are going to Hell. Well, if you’re going to quote Leviticus, we are all sinners. Men, do you shave or cut your hair? That is sinning there! Hmm! Did someone tell you who you could love or marry? I bet not! So, why should we, or our government, have the right to do so? I do understand that there are people who don’t want it “thrown in their face”, but don’t people also do this with politics? Other rights? Religion? Why is your way the only way?
News flash–people have been gay for hundreds, if not thousands, of years! The Romans, for one! Just because we have more outlets to express our feelings on it, doesn’t mean that it is a new occurrence. I feel that if you don’t like something, you’re entitled to that, but it’s not your job to instill your own personal beliefs on everyone.
I support gay marriage as a straight married woman because I have gay friends who are wonderful people; couples who love each other dearlyF and I feel like they should be given the same rights I have. At the same time, I don’t go around trying to get a rise out of people by forcing my beliefs on them. I will express my opinion, but I do state that it is mine, and I will always listen to others’ as well. And probably tell them if I don’t agree, and why.
ABORTION/BIRTH CONTROL The final topic I’m going to address here is another hot topic I feel like people get caught up in. That is a woman’s right to use birth control or have an abortion.
Again, I am right in the middle if this issue. As for birth control–if you believe that it is wrong and don’t want to take it, don’t! Easy! But it’s not your business what someone else does with their body. If a woman does not want to have children, why can’t she take preventative measures other than abstaining, to make sure she doesn’t get pregnant? Why is that your call to make, not hers?
I do agree that certain religious employers such as churches, etc, should be able to choose if they cover it on their insurance, but feel that a woman should have access to affordable birth control if she so chooses. It is not the employers business what she is doing in her bedroom, so they shouldn’t dictate if she can take it or not, but, they shouldn’t have to pay for it.
Now, regarding abortion. This is such an extreme issue. So extreme that some are saying they are going to boycott Girl Scout cookies because the organization supports pro-life individuals. Really? What point does that serve?
I personally feel that it is a woman’s right to terminate an unwanted or harmful pregnancy, but with many regulations and stipulations. I feel that no abortion should be performed after say, 20 weeks at the latest. I also feel that if someone keeps getting pregnant and keeps getting abortions, they should be implanted with some form of birth control to prevent the situation, and given more education.
I feel that before every procedure, all other options should be exhausted, such as explaining about adoption, and providing counseling. I feel that counseling should be provided before, during and after, and that women should never feel stuck, and that it should be handled on a case by case basis, not one law saying “that’s it for everyone.”
I feel that making the procedure illegal won’t stop it from happening, but will cause a more “black market” for it with much greater risk. I feel that if it is regulated, there can be a “happy medium” of sorts.
As for those who protest at abortion clinics, heckle the patients there, post things all over Facebook in the name of Jesus, can you see Jesus behaving this way? Or would He take this person in His arms and love and comfort them in their time of need? If Jesus had a Facebook, would He bash people all in the name of His word?
No matter what, getting an abortion can’t be a very easy time for the woman having it, so why can’t we do as Jesus would and love her, not hate her? Not make it worse. That doesn’t mean we agree with what she is doing, but we are looking past ourselves to help someone in need.
Again, we live in a country where we are entitled to our own opinions and beliefs, and we can express them as we see fit, as I have done here. But, when we say we are doing something in the name of Jesus, are we really? Or are we doing something in the name of our own beliefs and losing sight of what Jesus would do? Or are we being caged in by society and social and mainstream media? There’s no reason to just go with the flow, to not stand up for what we believe in, but maybe we should think outside ourselves and put the shoe on the other foot, if only for a little bit. Food for thought.
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